“You have to be strong.”
This phrase, often uttered tenderly, can nevertheless be a heavy burden to bear. It implies that there is a “right” way to experience these moments, and that showing one’s emotions is a weakness.
Preferred phrases include: “You have the right to feel everything you feel” or “Crying is normal.”
What is better to do than to talk
In those moments, gestures often speak louder than words. A hug (if it’s welcome), a sincere look, a discreet presence can convey far more support than a long speech.
A respectful silence is never a void: it is a space offered to the other to exist with their sorrow, without pressure.
